I had a wonderful opportunity to give Probus Club, Somerset West a talk on ‘Secrets of The Word’s Greatest Speakers.’
A lovely group of people who were very friendly and accommodating. I enjoyed it immensely.
A fun-filled evening at a great venue; Grande Roche Hotel, Paarl. Lots of visitors from other clubs as well as first time visitors from Paarl and Wellington.
Two Ice Breaker speeches, Carol Retief and Dirk Burger. Best Speaker Dirk Burger. Best Impromptu Speech, Sarah Arnot. Best Evaluator, The Confidence Doctor.
Had a great interview about advertising, selling and confidence at Hashtag Radio, Cape Town, with the lovely Charlotte Kemp and Abigail K, Confidence Crusader.
The reason comes down to comparing.
When you compare yourself with others you set yourself up to feel badly about yourself. You over-inflate the other person’s strengths and minimise or ignore their weaknesses. While at the same time over-inflating your weaknesses and minimising your strengths.
Comparison is a losing game because you’ll always manage to find someone better than you. Instead, keep your focus on you. Measure yourself against yourself.
Sure, there’s a benefit to seeing someone much better than you perform and modeling yourself after them. They may have a certain style, skills or technique that you’d like to emulate. This is the only positive way to focus on someone else. This isn’t comparison.
Comparison usually involves a negative appraisal of yourself in relation to others. Stay away from it. Comparison is hazardous to your self-confidence and performance health.